Listen, no for real listen. If there is one thing life has taught me, it's that you can't stay stuck in the same place. You have to get off of your ass and do something about it. So in light of this.... I did a thing.......
So I joined some singles groups on social media. I wasn't really looking for anything other than some conversation. Little did I know that I would end up with way more than I bargained for. Upon posting my picture and introducing myself, I received some very warm welcomes. To my surprise I also got a few private messages. However one person definitely stood out among the rest. As we all do, I had to look her profile a bit and also check some of her pictures. I didn't see any craziness so I replied to her message. ...
Real talk that was June 5th and we have been in conversation ever since. This is something I truly needed. It is interesting and a huge refreshing new thing for me, well for us. One step at a time right? Well I am getting to know her pretty well and she would be able to say the same. Until then I will enjoy the moment.
Sometimes when you have a bad breakup or things just aren't going the way you want them to, you need a fresh start. When the doubt, disappointment, sadness, fear, and just hopelessness all try to gang up on you, you have to fight back. When you fight back you begin to see that the world and your options are much more expansive and available than you might think. Don't allow yourself to get boxed in. Fight back. Remember to take care of yourself mentally, physically, and financially.
Love, Peace, and Happiness...
Sunday, July 5, 2020
Wednesday, June 10, 2020
So this happened.....
What's going on? You ight? You good? Covid 19 A.K.A. Corona Virus still fucking up your life too? 2020 still whooping yo ass too? Yeah me too. Ohhh yeah my relationship is over. Where I am today and in this moment tells me it is over for good on all levels. It wasn't pretty, it wasn't fun, and it wasn't expected at all. Real talk, I can't even talk about it in this post like I originally planned because I don't really know what I want to say about it. Instead I will talk about what I am feeling right now.
Needless to say this shit sucks! You court, you plan, you love, you cater, you do the " right " things and end up back in the land of the singles. I honestly thought I was done with this, but clearly I was wrong. The part of this that is the hardest to deal with is the self reflection. Yes I had conversations with her and asked questions for the sake of closure, but when someone lies to you, can you really trust anything they say? You're kinda left to your own devices and thoughts. " Was it all a lie? Was I good enough? Why? Was the sex bad? Did you love me? What did I do wrong? Why are you an asshole? How could you do this to me? " etc etc and all that. So now I have to decided is Rob will still be Rob or will Rob say f it . Yes it is easy to say " Just be you. Stay true to yourself. It was them not you." however, when things happen to you more than once, you tend to take a longer look into the mirror. After all, " You" are really the only thing you have control over. It is the only variable that you can change and adjust moving forward so it becomes quite tempting when you end up in situations like this.
Real talk.... again.... I think I will be ight. A lot of things if my life are right where I need them be. I am in position to comfortably make some moves I have literally been dreaming about. I have to de-clutter my mind. Things are different now. Am I sad and hurt and all those things? Yes, however I tend to be optimistic. I know time will heal my wounds, but I also don't want to lose sight of what's in front of me. I don't want to drown in sorrow and sadness. I want to use it to fuel my fire. I got shit to do man. Like on so real shit, I have things I want to really accomplish out here in this world.
When I am ready and a bit more clear I will tell you about what happened. I feel like if I do it right now it just won't come out right. Sometimes it is best to let things sit for a minute before you address them. So yeah i'm going to leave that there.
Peace, Love, and Happiness...
Sunday, May 3, 2020
New!
Yerrrrrrrrr, Yeah I know, I haven't posted in a while but i'm back. I have transitioned and moved and I am settled in now. Ahhhh..Life is grand Lately I have been working hard at accepting something new. It hasn't been easy honestly and a lot of people have dealt with this. It is and it isn't that serious depending on the type of person that you are. So as usually I will give ya'll the real. My lady is absolutely beautiful, fine, gorgeous, attractive, desirable, exotic, sexy, and all of those other adjectives. This isn't a problem at all I promise. It isn't a bad thing either. It is just a thing and it isn't a thing. It is whatever I decide to make it really. Rob, get on with it! Ok damn. As a man who is an introvert and pretty low key, it is taking me time to adjust to this attention. Yes I know the attention isn't mine directly per say, but I support her and view her content so I see things. No I am not looking for anything, but who doesn't scroll through comments every now and again. Now before you talk your shizzle, I am not the type to tell you what to wear, you can't go here, who is that guy, where you at, who texting you, who calling you, why you ain't call me back, over protective guy. So no I am not making a big deal out of anything. I'm just saying I notice das it. Yes I said das.
Now this is why it is a thing and it isn't a thing. It is a thing because as a man I am very big on respect. There is nothing worse than disrespect. So I keep an eye out for the " Overly Friendly " shiznit. It is the dude in me and I have been through some things so don't judge me. Yes, I heard you over there, " Wow so you don't trust her?" on the contrary, I trust her with damn near everything. As a man I am protective and men deal with things differently than woman do at times. Yes my lady can curve people and let them know she isn't interested, but it is different when a man lets someone know to step off. It sends a different type of message. Back to the point, I see things and I notice things and I gotta eat that sometimes just like we all do. Now real shit, some stuff use to bother the FUCK out of me. Like really bother the fuck out of me. I didn't bring them up or make them an issue because I recognized and understood it was a me thing not an us or her thing. However, overtime I have learned to relax and take things in, think, process and keep myself grounded. Now if I was the guy I mentioned earlier in this paragraph, then our shit would have been over before it ever started. So yeah this is why it could be a thing. Dudes are dudes, and people are people and we feel things and we react. That reaction will cause other things to take place. That is why I always like to think before I act. I know that my action is only the beginning and what happens next is on me as well regardless of what led me to take action. It is always a two way street, or three, or four.
So, why isn't it a thing? Honestly it isn't a thing because of the most simple reason. The reason most women give and the reason most people think of. " She is with you. She comes home to you. She is making love to you. She is going out with you. She is spending time with you." That is the honest truth when you think about it. When you really sit back a marinate on that, you will come to find that those things are the most important. Yes as people we tend to want more or we look and over obsess. Breathe, calm yourself, and relax. Learn to let the little things go because a lot of the time it is nothing. You must also learn to recognize when something is serious and needs to be addressed. Think about what the most important things are and focus on that. If some of those fall into a category that you feel isn't being fulfilled, have the conversation.
Alrighty so, final thoughts.At the end of the day you have to learn to vent and find a release. Don't drive yourself crazy. Don't obsess over things. Have the conversation and let the conversation be the end of that. If you have to keep rehashing it, that is a different story. You also have to learn to let things go and accept things for what they are. Sometimes once you have processed things, had the conversation, and seen the results, it will tell you all that you need to know.
Love, Peace, and Blessings.
Rob
Now this is why it is a thing and it isn't a thing. It is a thing because as a man I am very big on respect. There is nothing worse than disrespect. So I keep an eye out for the " Overly Friendly " shiznit. It is the dude in me and I have been through some things so don't judge me. Yes, I heard you over there, " Wow so you don't trust her?" on the contrary, I trust her with damn near everything. As a man I am protective and men deal with things differently than woman do at times. Yes my lady can curve people and let them know she isn't interested, but it is different when a man lets someone know to step off. It sends a different type of message. Back to the point, I see things and I notice things and I gotta eat that sometimes just like we all do. Now real shit, some stuff use to bother the FUCK out of me. Like really bother the fuck out of me. I didn't bring them up or make them an issue because I recognized and understood it was a me thing not an us or her thing. However, overtime I have learned to relax and take things in, think, process and keep myself grounded. Now if I was the guy I mentioned earlier in this paragraph, then our shit would have been over before it ever started. So yeah this is why it could be a thing. Dudes are dudes, and people are people and we feel things and we react. That reaction will cause other things to take place. That is why I always like to think before I act. I know that my action is only the beginning and what happens next is on me as well regardless of what led me to take action. It is always a two way street, or three, or four.
So, why isn't it a thing? Honestly it isn't a thing because of the most simple reason. The reason most women give and the reason most people think of. " She is with you. She comes home to you. She is making love to you. She is going out with you. She is spending time with you." That is the honest truth when you think about it. When you really sit back a marinate on that, you will come to find that those things are the most important. Yes as people we tend to want more or we look and over obsess. Breathe, calm yourself, and relax. Learn to let the little things go because a lot of the time it is nothing. You must also learn to recognize when something is serious and needs to be addressed. Think about what the most important things are and focus on that. If some of those fall into a category that you feel isn't being fulfilled, have the conversation.
Alrighty so, final thoughts.At the end of the day you have to learn to vent and find a release. Don't drive yourself crazy. Don't obsess over things. Have the conversation and let the conversation be the end of that. If you have to keep rehashing it, that is a different story. You also have to learn to let things go and accept things for what they are. Sometimes once you have processed things, had the conversation, and seen the results, it will tell you all that you need to know.
Love, Peace, and Blessings.
Rob
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